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Post by olmucky on Aug 4, 2024 6:12:52 GMT -5
“ But there was a question in the book about what is the difference between how kids are raised now and how is was when I was a kid.”
I knew very few one parent homes. Jimmy was the only kid I knew. My moms family were all farmers. Every household I knew kids had chores. School stuff first then chores Then if you had free time, you didn’t come home until dusk. We had TV’s and video games but it was probably a tertiary past time at best.
A lot of the above has changed the last 3-4+ decades
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Post by madm002 on Aug 4, 2024 7:26:44 GMT -5
^Vote Up, me and my sister grew up trailer park poor. We knew where government cheese came from. Mom got her shit together and we trudged up to middle class. She asked me what I wanted for Christmas. I said I wanted a pair of Air Jordan sneakers. Well what do you know, a pair of Jordan 23’s were under the Christmas tree, she looked at me and said “ I had to clean up a lot of shit and puke for those shoes.” I spoil my kids but they understand the concept of a hard days work. I think most eventually do, but the gratitude curve is longer. As I told my daughter when her son turned 14. You will be told you dont understand and are dump until he is forty, then it reverses. Some earlier, some never.
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Post by jstubby2 on Aug 4, 2024 8:22:08 GMT -5
Most of our parents grew up during the depression & new what broke was like. My Mom would eat beans before she would let a bill go unpaid. My Dad worked his ass of for not much money. So needless to say with 5 boys in the house there wasn't any extra money laying around. If you wanted something you had to earn some money or make it out in the shop. I got my 1st paycheck when I was 8, cleaning a lawyers office on the weekend's. I was washing dishes in a Chinese restraint at 11 & paper rout, soda bottles, mowing grass... anything for a buck. I rode my bike to baseball rode with the coach to football, we where a 1 car family for a long time, my mom didnt even have a license. A lot has changed in my lifetime. We have created a world wide society that's closer than we've ever been & further apart than ever.
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Post by jstubby2 on Aug 4, 2024 8:54:32 GMT -5
I was left with a good work ethic, a respect for hard working people & thankful for what I have.
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Post by olmucky on Aug 4, 2024 9:00:34 GMT -5
^Vote Up, me and my sister grew up trailer park poor. We knew where government cheese came from. Mom got her shit together and we trudged up to middle class. She asked me what I wanted for Christmas. I said I wanted a pair of Air Jordan sneakers. Well what do you know, a pair of Jordan 23’s were under the Christmas tree, she looked at me and said “ I had to clean up a lot of shit and puke for those shoes.” I spoil my kids but they understand the concept of a hard days work. I think most eventually do, but the gratitude curve is longer. As I told my daughter when her son turned 14. You will be told you dont understand and are dump until he is forty, then it reverses. Some earlier, some never. My neighbor built mustangs, wired houses, redid sewer/water pipes etc. his whole life. his son turned 17 and knew EVERYTHING! He had scholarship to USF. Kid quit. He knew it all. He knew motors better. How to wire a house better etc He had 2 dui’s Lives in a shitty apt Has a shitty job Hes 39 now, last year he told his dad “Dad, you were right. I should have listened to you more. I got nothing”
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Post by Mango Man on Aug 4, 2024 9:14:37 GMT -5
I think most eventually do, but the gratitude curve is longer. As I told my daughter when her son turned 14. You will be told you dont understand and are dump until he is forty, then it reverses. Some earlier, some never. My neighbor built mustangs, wired houses, redid sewer/water pipes etc. his whole life. his son turned 17 and knew EVERYTHING! He had scholarship to USF. Kid quit. He knew it all. He knew motors better. How to wire a house better etc He had 2 dui’s Lives in a shitty apt Has a shitty job Hes 39 now, last year he told his dad “Dad, you were right. I should have listened to you more. I got nothing” I think that happens a lot. Something about teenagers knowing it all. of course, not me.
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Post by illinoisfisherman on Aug 4, 2024 9:31:09 GMT -5
My parents struggled to pay the hospital bills from my birth and subsequent illness until I was a teenager.
They loved us so much but they couldn’t afford to spoil us. I had to work for everything I wanted.
When I became successful I tried to buy them everything that they needed and wanted.
Built them several new homes. Mom was so happy and Fad jus beamed with pride
It sure made me feel good
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Post by richm on Aug 4, 2024 10:19:26 GMT -5
I was taught to save money, and the work and save for what i wanted. Did yardwork for folks cause itvwas what they asked for, the bonus was when i got paid. Folks kept the necessities handled. I just was encouraged to find stuff and earn it.
Didvyards, raked leaves, shoveled snow, had paper routes, then when hit 16 had part time jobs thru college, then out of college w full time jobs. Dealt w layoffs and losing a company.
That the partners where i work bring their spoiled daughters to hang out and scan reports for 2 months so they have “real life experience” before college is pathetic. Then they wonder why the young employees cant work hard and quiet quit and things like that.
Soft spoiled kids. They need some hardship to realize reality. If their parents will let them get that far. So many folks are carrying their kids who complain they dont make enough, but its cause they dont work hard.
Then we have those who have been there and done that and are living dynamo’s cause they actually work. Strong line between the two groups.
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Post by garycoleco on Aug 4, 2024 10:24:11 GMT -5
Struggle is good. It builds character. I've struggled more than most. I was 100% on my own at 16.
Other than the occasional few bucks here and there my children have all worked for every penny in their bank accounts. I've never spanked them, asked about their grades, asked about homework, told them to go to bed. ... We let them make their own decisions and dreams. We just set a standard and expectations for them.
My oldest received a full academic scholarship last year from a private university. Was on the Dean's List and it looks like that money is going to carry on through nursing school. My middle and youngest look to be on a stronger trajectory.
Government doesn't like free thinkers. Laws are set in place to discourage independence and achievement. It's easier to scare citizens who have nothing. Children growing up now will have a huge battle on their hands and the better be prepared
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