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Post by richm on May 1, 2024 12:54:47 GMT -5
Cost $3k to cremate mom 2 yrs back.
Cost $12k to plant wife’s father last year.
Some folks dont like cremation. Feel it is bad. My wifecwants to be buried, im okay w cremation.
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Post by cadman on May 1, 2024 13:09:23 GMT -5
The ones for $1000 are simple cremations. No other services and remains are returned in a box.
Don't have the funeral home do it, they mark up the service. There are quite a few crematoriums that offer the simple cremation.
You can then plan your own memorial for the deceased if you wish.
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Post by PolarsStepdad on May 1, 2024 13:13:33 GMT -5
Please for the love of Gawd don't give my money to the vultures in the funeral business. If you want to spend money torch me, invite everyone over and grill some steaks or something....but definitely don't give e te funeral home 10-15k and put me in a hole no ody will ever co.w to aee
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Post by richm on May 1, 2024 13:59:23 GMT -5
The ones for $1000 are simple cremations. No other services and remains are returned in a box. Don't have the funeral home do it, they mark up the service. There are quite a few crematoriums that offer the simple cremation. You can then plan your own memorial for the deceased if you wish. She died up north, maybe they charge more? Dad did get an urn and a box of “extra” ashes to go with it. LoL discussing what returning to ashes costs.
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Post by swampdog on May 1, 2024 14:21:41 GMT -5
When wife’s dad passed the family had me go with them to make the arrangements. They wanted someone with a cool frame of mind and one not so emotionally distraught. The director set the hook on a somewhat elaborate burial. When he got to the point of charging for sensors in the vault to let them know high water in the burial vault might compromise the casket, I said what happens at that point, do you exhume and fix everything and why is that an issue? W/O sensors no one would know. He hastily removed that frivolous add on. We then went with a less expensive casket that did everything the beautiful casket (looked like one of Elvis’ performance cloaks) reportedly did. It was clear he didn’t like me being there. Saved the family a couple of grand.
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Post by PolarsStepdad on May 1, 2024 16:33:34 GMT -5
When wife’s dad passed the family had me go with them to make the arrangements. They wanted someone with a cool frame of mind and one not so emotionally distraught. The director set the hook on a somewhat elaborate burial. When he got to the point of charging for sensors in the vault to let them know high water in the burial vault might compromise the casket, I said what happens at that point, do you exhume and fix everything and why is that an issue? W/O sensors no one would know. He hastily removed that frivolous add on. We then went with a less expensive casket that did everything the beautiful casket (looked like one of Elvis’ performance cloaks) reportedly did. It was clear he didn’t like me being there. Saved the family a couple of grand. They are right up their with lawyers, bail bondsman, and payday loan makers
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Post by richm on May 1, 2024 19:32:09 GMT -5
When wife’s dad passed the family had me go with them to make the arrangements. They wanted someone with a cool frame of mind and one not so emotionally distraught. The director set the hook on a somewhat elaborate burial. When he got to the point of charging for sensors in the vault to let them know high water in the burial vault might compromise the casket, I said what happens at that point, do you exhume and fix everything and why is that an issue? W/O sensors no one would know. He hastily removed that frivolous add on. We then went with a less expensive casket that did everything the beautiful casket (looked like one of Elvis’ performance cloaks) reportedly did. It was clear he didn’t like me being there. Saved the family a couple of grand. They are right up their with lawyers, bail bondsman, and payday loan makers Just every day salesmen. Cars, hearing aids, dr’s pushing certain pills. Etc.
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Post by cadman on May 2, 2024 7:02:27 GMT -5
The ones for $1000 are simple cremations. No other services and remains are returned in a box. Don't have the funeral home do it, they mark up the service. There are quite a few crematoriums that offer the simple cremation. You can then plan your own memorial for the deceased if you wish. She died up north, maybe they charge more? Dad did get an urn and a box of “extra” ashes to go with it. LoL discussing what returning to ashes costs. Could be, more likely a funeral home handled it. Around here, the funeral home will cost you about $3000 and most of them send it to the crematorium and pay them $600 or so, mark up their "services" and sell you the $1000 urn that's made in China for $50.
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Post by madm002 on May 2, 2024 13:25:17 GMT -5
I dunno, I would have like to visit my father gravesite, but Mom had him cremated ASAP. To be fair she had had 10 years to prepare for his death, no surprises there. But then she ended up dumping the ashes in the rose garden (her happy place)
I personally want them to save the money, go drink champagne on the beach and wish me bon voyage, this world is not my home anyway. Remember me with good memories in a happy place
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Post by jmarkb on May 2, 2024 14:07:42 GMT -5
I'm getting cremated, and my ashes disposed of by the crematorium. I guess they just dump them in the trash. Told my boys if they wanted to dump them at sea to not get dressed up, get in the boat, to run hard until they see birds, bait, upwellings, or whatever will hold fish, then toss the urn over the side, and get lines out to catch some fish so it's not a wasted trip.
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Post by PolarsStepdad on May 2, 2024 14:46:49 GMT -5
I'm serious when I say I would rather be fed through a chum machine on a fishing trip for everybody
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Post by conchydong on May 2, 2024 15:23:51 GMT -5
My father was a funeral Director all of his life. I almost became one, but fortunately, my grandfather sold out the business under my dad‘s feet and left him stranded.. my grandfather, who was a son of a bitch, had a wife that was 36 years younger than him not much older than my oldest sister and he wanted to cash out and leave the money to his wife. Having said all that with my father’s knowledge of the business, both him and my mom wanted to be cremated. Like Cad said you can go directly through the crematorium without having to deal with the funeral home. Just ask them to put the cremains in a cardboard box and if you want to save some ashes go on eBay and buy some small urns and give some ashes for each of the family members if they desire. The bulk of the ashes I dumped myself at Sea.
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Post by gardawg on May 2, 2024 15:36:11 GMT -5
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Post by Captj on May 2, 2024 15:55:29 GMT -5
Willie has the best idea. Just roll him up and smoke him.
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